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Today's topic is "Stop Being Negative" and boy does that topic hit home for me. It can cover the gamut of many sorts of things such as internet trolls
I have always been a quiet and shy person. I've only (within the last 15 years or so) started to come out of the shyness. I still freeze up around people when I meet them for the first time but I'm not so catatonic anymore, at least not like I used to be. Growing up like that was tough though because my debilitating shyness lead to peers thinking I was snobby. It also made me prime bullying fodder and dealt with those issues from middle school all the way up to high school. The bullying also lead to some pretty low-self esteem issues, which kept on going all the way through the disaster that was my first marriage. Of course, being married and being verbally and mentally abused doesn't quite help matters either (not by Chris! Let me make that clear, he is amazing! This was all during my first marriage).
I didn't mean for this topic to get so heavy and I'm finally at a pretty good place in my life. I don't think my self-esteem issues will ever go away but I am, continually, a work-in-progress. I am trying to focus on the positive things that I do have going for me and not to dwell so much in the negative.
These are some ways that I try avoid the negativity.
I try to remind myself to look how far I've come (in weigh loss and through personal issues). I'm also at a point that I will seek help when I need it. I never used to do that. I would internalize everything and never share what I had going on in my cranium. Chris and I communicate ALL THE TIME. That made my focus shift from keeping everything in, to spilling it all out. And I never realized how just talking things out can really make a difference and alleviate any stress that is going on. If something is bothering me, I no longer hold back. These things have been monumental in helping me bust through many of my confidence issues.
In what ways do you focus on the positives and stop being negative?